Slowly…Figuring Things Out

I haven’t been keeping up with my blog lately simply because I haven’t been feeling very motivated. I thought it was distraction that fueled this nonchalant attitude towards writing but I slowly realized it may be more than that.

There are many things we can fix in a jiffy without any help…and others, we just can’t.

Over the last couple months, I’ve had my fair share of internal ups and downs. Sometimes it’s because of actual events but most times it’s just my mind and the thoughts it holds. Now there are people who will give you very generic advice that to them sounds simple enough, but it isn’t.

Figuring out what’s wrong without a clear start point is a process you go through rather slowly. And this makes perfect sense, if the issue is that serious or prominent then taking it slowly or at your pace of comfort is what you should do. Don’t feel rushed by time, people or your general environment. It’s not fair to you. You deserve to be allowed to slowly figure out your mess and then put it back together. You’ll know when you’re taking ‘Too long’ or moving through way too fast. You can feel the authenticity of the progress you’re making. You’ll know the difference between ‘handcrafted’ and ‘hurried’. Trust me, deep down, if you are honest with yourself you will know before anyone even alludes to it.

So what’s my message? That just like me, if you’re going through something and you don’t feel right in your skin; you are ALLOWED to take it slow. That is your right. So turn the volume on those that want to rush you through. The sun sets when it pleases and rises at its own pace too. It is not bothered by the humans sitting and wishing that it would hurry or slow down. You shouldn’t either.

@DaleyChronicles

When The Music Hits…

There are some songs that really put you in a place when you hear them, I mean really listen to them.

I am a lover of music, I search for music that speaks to me in every way. It could be contemplative me, lover me, rachet me, soulful me, life-appreciating me and God loving me. I look for them all and when I hear them, they put me into that place, they speak to that part of me clearly!

So I wanted to share with you a few of the songs that have been on my list for the past few weeks. They give me a start, a push if you may, to get my vibe going. To give you an idea of the feeling I get, I have categorized my song list (You can click on the name of the song to listen to it on YouTube)…This isn’t all, so you can look out for another list.

Serenity

1. River Rise – India Arie

There was always
A power I could feel
It was guidance to tell me the way to go
But nowadays I feel like can’t hear that voice
I’ve been flying blind
I need you to come and be my eyes. (be my eyes)

River Rise

2. Seattle – Mary Mary

Open up my heart
Fill me with your love
Every single part
Make me what you’re made of
Take me from the start
Hold my hand in yours
Let the rain pour

Holy Spirit rain like Seattle

3. The Last Jesus – Kirk Franklin

If I say I love Jesus, but you can’t see my Jesus
My words are empty, if they can’t see Jesus in me
No more excuses, I give myself away
Because I may be the only Jesus they see

Purpose Driven

1. Say – John Mayer

You’d better know that in the end
It’s better to say too much
Then never say what you need to say again

2. If Today was Your Last Day – Nickelback

If today was your last day
And tomorrow was too late
Could you say goodbye to yesterday?

3. Fly Before You Fall – Cynthia Erivo

I hear you
Tumbling fast
Here and now, you’re afraid
Don’t you worry
I’ll teach you to fly before you fall away

Loving You is Like…

1. Got Love – Tove Lo

When I breathe and I breathe into you and I feel it right to the bone
And I give what you give and we go even higher than we are strong

2. James Blake – A Case of You (Joni Mitchell Cover)

Oh I could drink a case of you darling
I would still be on my feet

3. I Do This For You – Marlene

I set my heart on fire to make my love shine brighter
I give it all if you’re ready to take it..

I do this for you.

Take Me There

These are not so much about the words…but the feeling.

1. Take Shelter – Years and Years

2. Say My Name – Odesza ft. Zyra

3. Help Me Lose My Mind – Disclosure ft. London Grammar

4. Stay – Rihanna (Branchez Remix)

Last but not least *giggles*

Did You Say Turn Up?

1. That’s Me Right There – Jasmine V

Yeah, that’s me right there
Can’t nobody love that man
Like I love that man
That’s me right there

2. Bang My Head – David Guetta Ft. Sia

You may feel light headed, but you won’t crawl, no, you won’t fall
You will rise above it all
You’ll find what you’re searching for
And you may feel light headed
You think you’re gonna hit the floor
Instead you rise above it all

3. Hands To Myself – Selena Gomez

Can’t keep my hands to myself
I want it all, know nothing else
Can’t keep my hands to myself
Give me your all and nothing else

4. Commas – Future

Fake n* lie to a real n*, that’s just some s* that you don’t do
Imma stay riding for my real n*, that’s just some s* that I’m gon’ do

There you go. I’ll be doing this again so if you have any suggestions, share them in the comment section :-). Until next time…

Journey into Passion and Purpose

“WHAT LIES BEHIND US AND WHAT LIES BEFORE US ARE TINY MATTERS COMPARED TO WHAT LIES WITHIN US. “
-RALPH WALDO EMERSON

January 11, 2016 will mark the start of my journey towards feeling more fulfilled. I found a great challenge when I did my research  and I fell in love with it. It’s called ‘This Cherished Life: Rediscover Your Passion & Purpose’. I have found myself in situations where I feel empty or simply like wasted blank paper without direction or purpose. I have always had a passion for Psychology and with each roadblock I have been falling deeper into this empty feeling. I have drowned out my free time with either work or mindlessly watching TV shows but I haven’t felt filled. So needless to say, this challenge is PERFECT!

This challenge pushes you to write freely or based on the prompts and the questions. What I love are the actual prompts, for example “What are you doing too much of, that you can let go of? What are you doing on a regular basis that isn’t serving you? What kinds of “shoulds” are you allowing in your life that, when you really think about them, are really “I would rather nots”?” These are the types of questions we should be asking ourselves, and with 30 minutes per day for 30 days, it is a slow way to form the habit of carving out time for yourself. I’ve always spoken of the con to having a ‘busy’ life, you start to lose track of what’s important. I’m hoping to maintain connections with my friends and family this year. To continue to focus on what makes me feel fulfilled, even if it’s for a small portion of my day.

So wish me luck because I am going to try my BEST to keep on track with this challenge.

Until next time beauties! Here’s the link to the challenge if you want to try it: http://bit.ly/1SbSqiv.

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2016 Book Challenge Accepted…Well Sorta

I’ve been trying to get my challenges in order for the year like my Gratitude Challenge, Exercise/Workout Challenge, Writing Challenge etc. when I came across the 2016 Popsugar Book Challenge. I read the list (below) and decided, ‘Yep! I’m gonna do this…well some of them.’ I know who I am as a reader, so I know the things that won’t necessarily interest me, like a political memoir, autobiography etc. So I went straight to my Google Keep and added the categories to a new list. I have been going through to figure out which books I will be reading and so far, I have been having a HARD time. There are SOOO many great books out there and I pray I make the time this year to explore them. I really wish I had someone to share this interest with, but until then, I have my faithful followers (not that I’ll leave you anyway). So here’s the list for the challenge, can you do it? Let me know some of your suggestions and I will definitely share my experience as I go along.

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Happy New Year!

An Important, but hard, New Year’s Resolution

First I really have to marvel at the changes that took place on WordPress since I last made a blog post. I know it’s disappointing and I totally fell off the wagon but hopefully I can dig down inside to find that inspiration and motivation again.

But let me get into why I came here. Today, I made a heavy realization and it is one that I have been seeing for quite some time now but always found it difficult to accept. That is: People won’t always care for you as much as you care for them. They won’t want to be in your company as much or feel the need to reach out as much. That is the simple truth. Sometimes, others are caught up in their own lives and those close to them that there are others (which may include you), that get forgotten.

So here’s where I am at with that sad truth and realization; I need to find a way to not care as much when people do this to me. Here’s why: A. Chances are, I may be doing this to someone else without even knowing. B. These experiences are coming at me so frequently it is hard to ignore that fact that there must be a lesson in there somewhere. C. What’s the point in getting sad and bothered over someone who doesn’t glance twice at you? There aren’t a lot of strong arguments now are there?

So for the year 2016, I will try to care less when I am cast aside and instead learn where to focus my efforts  and where it’s not worth it. Sometimes people are very seasonal or reach out only when they need something; I’m finding a lot of those people in my life right now. Does that mean I am not exciting? A good friend? A good sister? I don’t think so.  I am forced to conclude that the universe may be teaching me the great lesson of loving myself enough to be happy when alone, know my worth and surround myself with people who genuinely care for me and want to be around me. I am tired of failed plans, waiting on others just to have them bail. I am exhausted and quite displeased by the constant knot I have in my stomach when I am ‘left out’.

So that’s my first and I think one of the hardest resolutions I will make for this coming year. My decision may not be liked or understood, but I feel this is what’s best for me.

Do you have any hard decisions you need to make? Tell me about it and maybe I can give you some valuable advice.

Until next time…

Following Through…My Hard To Break Habit

Wow, it’s been a while since I sat down and decided to do a blog and just post it without all the frills. Life has me busy but I’m definitely working on carving out the time to do more of what makes me happy, like blogging.

Any who, I’m here to talk about this seriously hard to break habit I have; following through. For a person that knows the importance of closure and completion, I have a serious problem finishing things in my life. Even things as small as a meal, I always leave some back even if it’s a bite-size.

Most recently I finally followed through on my decision to buy myself a new phone, first time! With the phone came some great features to help with maintaining a good health, now this leads to one of my biggest difficulties to date…following through on my health and fitness plans. I always start to drink more water, exercise more then in about a week I totally forget and decide I’m tired of trying. There are times when I think to myself that this has to do with fear, I want to see the great outcome but I fear I may not be able to achieve it or it won’t help me. For example, I have a slight hydration problem and it’s obvious that drinking more water will help but for some reason I can’t follow through. Why you ask? Because I fear there may be more to this problem than water, and if I drink more water and nothing changes I will need to further explore the problem.

I started reading ‘The Road Less Travelled’ and Peck speaks quite frequently about the negative effects that come about when we ignore our problems hoping they will go away. I knew before but I really know now that this is my issue. Now I have to figure out what to do.

First I have committed to exercising at least 30 minutes per day, even if it’s just a jog or walk. I will try to drink at least 4 glasses of water each day and work my way up.

Sometimes we find it difficult to face our problems because we may not have the support we want, which is what’s happening to me. The truth is, we have all the strength, drive and support we need resting inside us! So if you’re like me, you have to first accept where you are, figure out where you want to be and how you’re going to get there. You have to push yourself to start and keep pushing yourself as you go along.

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We can do many great things, we have the strength and power to do it. We just have to believe it. I’m working on believing. Will you?
– Daley Chronicles

Stop Putting A Hold On Life

I remember at the beginning of this year, I made a list of things I wanted to accomplish and when I did. I did this because I know that putting your plans down on paper makes them real. Sad part is, I underestimated the power of ‘I’ll do it tomorrow/next week/next month’. I did not make a contingency plan for the little virus called procrastination that has the ability to eat through your plans and sabotage your progress.

A lot of the progress we make depends on the level of commitment and time we put into what we want to accomplish. It could be as small as a doctor’s visit; if we don’t make the time for it then we won’t ever be able to go. We start to then slowly put our lives on pause. We become incapable of completing the things we aspire to and we start to become stagnant, our growth stunted. 

A life with no growth or progress feels dead and can be considered dead too. It gives you no drive to handle tomorrow, it leaves you feeling miserable and uncomfortable with where you are. It may even push you to try to rip yourself out of your skin. You start to feel down and empty without being able to pinpoint a particular reason. So it’s safe to say it doesn’t do you any good.

I am not sure how I can get out of this slump where I just feel as if I am muddling through but I have a clue.
1. I will commit to my tasks on my to-do list, no matter how simple it is.
2. Try to establish a routine that keeps me on track and not just busy but productive.
3. Exercise and eat right: I think this is more than important, part of the drive to get up and do things has to do with your mind and body, keep those healthy and active, and you will be able to accomplish much more.
4. Don’t beat myself up: if I can’t get something done or I need to rest, I should put myself down and feel I am slipping back into the pattern. Mistakes happen.
5. Don’t put off for tomorrow, what can be done today.

Those are the five things I will be focusing on as I try to not put a hold on life. If you have any tips or pointers, please comment below.

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Until next time…DC