The Gifts of Imperfection: Your Guide to a Wholehearted Life – Brene Brown (Part 1)

“The universe isn’t short on wake up calls. We’re just too quick to hit the snooze button.” – Brene Brown

I am a GoodReads girl, I go there to find quotes that speak to me and ultimately books I can read to help with making my life feel more fulfilling. So when I came across Brene Brown’s quote I made a promise to get her book. I totally forgot the promise I made to myself, until a friend of mine Perrisha, sent me a link to her (Brene) TedTalk: Listening To Shame. I listened and I couldn’t help but to think “You have to get her book.” but again, that though got lost in all the madness.

It got lost until I was on Amazon looking for The Four Agreements and like a light bulb, her name appeared in my head so I ordered her book. I got it on Wednesday and I started to read this morning. After the preface, I am sure I will be enjoying this book. She writes with honesty and that is something I adore in a writer.

It is safe to say that I will be diving heart first into this book, and I will be sharing bits of it with you. I don’t usually do this, but I really believe this book will be worth sharing.I also believe that it will help me to put to paper my thoughts on it and how it makes me feel.

So let’s get ready for a great literary journey!

@DaleyChronicles 

The Very Inspiring Blogger Award *OMG*

“When you are living the best version of yourself, you inspire others to live the best versions of themselves.”
Steve Maraboli, Unapologetically You: Reflections on Life and the Human Experience

We inspire people through our words and our actions. Our lives should be an inspiration to someone, we should live in a way that brings light to the world and those in it. I have been trying to live and speak this way…now write this way. So trust me when I say, I was very honoured to receive a comment from Shaudae of Inspiration Served Daily (known as Abby to me lol) that she nominated me for this awesome award! Thank you my sweetheart and trust me when I say I will always try to inspire others!

So these are the rules of the Very Inspiring Blogger Award

1. Thank the person who nominated you and add their link to your blog

2. List the award rules so your nominees will know what to do.

3. State 7 things about yourself.

4. Nominate other bloggers.

5. Contact your nominees and provide a link to your post.

6. Display the award logo (button) on your blog, whether on your sidebar or about page, or special award page.

So here it goes!

1. My name is Kimberly Daley lol (one down)

2. I looove to books and I love to read them just as much. Lately I have been trying to build my personal library of books, in fact I recently ordered 6 books on Amazon. Now it doesn’t matter that I have about 6 other books that I haven’t read yet, I get an amazing feeling when I know I can just pick up a book and read it.

3. Speaking of the things I love, I love my MUSIC! It is one of the top 5 things that may me happy and just puts me in a zone. In fact, I even had a blog about it so check it out When Music Hits.

4. I am a hardworking person and I know people say that and you think “yeah right, everyone says that” but I mean it. I will do my best at whatever I am given simply because I hate when work is mediocre.

5. I love my blog :). I recently moved over to WordPress and trust me when I say it is the best thing I have done. I have a new passion for getting my thoughts out there because I feel as if people are actually reading it. Now I don’t get bummed out when it’s not a lot of persons because most of the times, I write for me.

6. I love to talk….well most of the times. I am a talker but trust me when I say that I listen too. I have my moments when I won’t say anything, simply because I am in a mood but when I get on a roll, oh I AM ON! lol

7. I love quotes! I will live on quotes and proverbs, so much so I feel like a walking Goodreads link. But I don’t mind, because I truly believe that the words of others have power and they can lift you up or bring you down if you let it. So I choose to let them uplift me and I share them with others so that they too can be lifted.

With all of that said! I would like to give a warm shout out to the bloggers that have inspired me since I have been here. They are;

Thank you for inspiring me and continue to inspire others!

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STEP OUT TODAY…IN FAITH

Things happen for a reason…How many of us believe this statement without doubts? Honestly, not a lot.

As expected, we find more understanding in the good things that happens to us, rather than the things that are not so good. This is natural because I mean if I get a promotion of course I’m going to say it is because of my hard work and dedication. On the other hand,  if I am demoted or let go, I will find it hard to figure out what the reason for this could possibly be.

Not all persons are like this; there are some persons who believe in God’s will and grace. They believe that He does not give us more than we can bear and that all the little things tie into a bigger picture.

Do you want to know the truth? It does! We won’t always understand why things happen but if you trust and believe in God’s will, you will be able to continue to have hope. Your faith won’t waver and crumble because things aren’t going the way you wish it would.

Things don’t just end, they give way for new beginnings and possibilities.

Your life isn’t over because you lost your job, you didn’t get promoted or you are low on cash. As long as you are breathing there is hope and a chance for things to turn around. But it’s not that easy, you have to take the first steps and keep moving in faith. Maybe it won’t come immediately…most times it doesn’t. We have to work hard and continue to work because we know God’s plans WILL be fulfilled. All that you need to make this work will come to you,  you just have to take those steps.

STEP OUT IN FAITH! LET IT BE YOUR FASHION.

Until next time…
@DaleyChronicles

Luke 17 : 11 – 19….Thankfulness

A Lesson of Gratitude

“As He entered the village, ten lepers stood at a distance crying out, ‘Jesus, Master, have mercy on us!’ He looked at them and said, ‘Go show yourselves to the priests.’ And as they went, their leprosy disappeared.
One of them, when he saw that he was healed, came back to Jesus shouting, ‘Praise God, I am healed!” He fell to his face down on the ground at Jesus’ feet, thanking him for what he had done.”

Luke 17 : 11 – 19

Gratitude is a wonderful and positive attitude. How can our lives have meaning if we do not count our blessings and give thanks to the one who blessed us?

When we wake up in the mornings, we have more than enough to be grateful for, because that in itself is a wonderful blessing. Yes, the day may not go the way you want, but something did go right. Jesus healed 10 lepers and only one came back to him to give thanks… ONE! There is so much He does for us and that others around us do, but do we take the time to say ‘Thank You’ and really mean it?

Let this be our lesson for today, gratitude. Say ‘Thank you’ when someone does something for you, helps you or is kind to you. Give God thanks for all your blessings and speak a positive attitude unto His people. You are blessed beyond measures…always remember that.

@DaleyChronicles

A Little Thing I Learnt About…FRIENDS

“I think if I’ve learned anything about friendship, it’s to hang in, stay connected, fight for them, and let them fight for you. Don’t walk away, don’t be distracted, don’t be too busy or tired, don’t take them for granted. Friends are part of the glue that holds life and faith together. Powerful stuff.”
Jon Katz

Life is like a sieve; with all the happy moments, conflict and arguments, it separates the real from the not so real. With every stage in our lives, the holes in the sieve get smaller and smaller so only those who are mostly pure and true will make it to the other side.

friendship

It is interesting to me that we can all start our lives and experiences with a lot of persons around us, but as the journey goes on and tough situations arise many fall off. Before you know it, you are looking back and wondering ‘What happened? Where did they go? WHY did they go?’ The truth is, you can’t judge your real friends just by their words, you judge them by their actions. Because many will say ‘Best friends for life’ or ‘we’ll always be friends’ but the minute something discomforting or difficult comes along, they give up on what should be forever or at least close to it.
I can’t count on my hands the number of ‘friends’ I’ve lost because of conflict, time, distance or just because our roads took a detour and split.

All this has taught me to cherish the persons I do have. To try my best to keep them in my life and not allow disagreements of little fights to get in the way. I know now that not everyone is meant to travel alongside you on life’s journey. There are some that start with you and fall off along the way, then there are others who you meet up on along the way. They all have a purpose and they are all important. For they teach us the lessons we need to learn.

friends

@DaleyChronicles

Freed From The Storm Cloud

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When we lose something valuable, we can’t help but to think of what we would do to get it back, we can’t help but to think of how much it contributed to our lives. We become stuck in this place of wishful thinking, regret and guilt. We want to move forward, we want to break free but we can’t. We are simply stuck.

He steps into the room dressed in a suit and I am smiling for some reason. “What’s the occasion?”, I tease. ‘We’re going to church today.’ He replies in that final tone. I am not disappointed, I am fearful. I immediately start to tremble and beads of sweat decide to make their debut. In this moment, mixed with all the fear and terror, I know I can love my husband again, my heart is growing with compassion, love and respect for him. We are getting out of this.

It is always hard to go through the pain of losing something, someone or any trial. It isn’t easy because not everything is. But as humans we live a very complicated life, but a life with hope, joy and peace just as much as the other bad things we can’t let go of. Every day we wake up, we go into the world holding on to things, some good and some not so good. Every day we punish ourselves holding on to all this pain, instead of leaving it at the feet of God. We hold on to these things that make us stuck, things that keep us from moving on in FAITH. Conflict will arise, Controversy will arise, and hard times will arise, but to deal with that, we all need courage and faith in God. We have to be strong enough to cry not without hope, but in good faith. We have to be strong enough to leave it at His feet and live life the way we ought. No, we are not saying forget your sorrow, we are saying take the first step required to move on. Be honest with yourself and God. Find the strength! Find the strength in God!”

Sitting here, captivated and moved, I don’t notice the tears and the warm hand on my shoulder. I cannot help but to hold close the place that was once a home for another life, two lives. I hold close the place that was once haunted by life lost. I hold close the place I felt ruined her. Right here, I am finally able to admit the truth, that I have been blaming myself all along and it is time to LET IT GO.

@DaleyChronicles

Trapped In A Storm Cloud (Pt. 3 & Pt. 4)

“Your husband came in yesterday and he gave me this photo. I know this must be hard for you think of so it’s going to be even harder to talk about. But you just fell apart in front of me and I want to know if you are ready to talk to me about what happened, are you?” I nod because I have to save my strength.
“I try to breathe but it’s too hard. How many times have I lived through this moment? But somehow this felt different. I was still aching inside and crumbing slowly at the thought, but I needed to speak. It was time to deal with this.”
I must admit, I thought of leaving, just like all the times before, but it was if I was stuck to that chair by a force unseen and unknown.
“I’m not sure I know how to live, how to move forward. I am not even sure I know how to look at myself without feeling my insides crawling to my throat and stifling their way through me. I lay in bed and wonder how I function. I hear my phone ringing and as I pray for the strength to answer it but I can’t. I have not told anyone how I have been feeling. Few persons know I lost my baby and they keep trying to contact me to find out how I am doing. But how do I say ‘Fuck OFF!! I am not okay and asking me EVERY DAMN DAY won’t help!’ It’s my best friend who calls the most, she’s worried because I haven’t called her back, I have missed dates with her and others; she says people keep calling her to find out how I am. What could I possibly say to her. She is a mother of two with one on the way. How do I begin to explain that I am fading and that my heartbeat is too faint to recognize? I’m ready to tell her that I have lost many pieces of me and I will never get them back as they are buried in a place no one can find. I fall to the ground and I weep, not for what has happened to me but because I can already see how her eyes will gaze over my body, searching for the scars I have successfully masked. She’ll look into my eyes for the dust and the stone because she’ll know my walls are no more, she’ll know like no one else, the agony I have endured as I tried to be there for her. She’ll know how being in the profession I am is like pulling out a tooth from my mouth each day. But how will I start and will I ever be able to finish this alive? Could it be that the wall that shields my pain is the same fortress that holds my soul together?”
“Your soul is too big to be shielded by a wall your avoidance has built up for you. It is ready and waiting to surface, to purge the darkness it is harbouring and to finally begin to heal. You have lost not one but two little ones, and your soul is feeling as weak as your body. But you can build it back up, you can begin to heal your deep rooted scars.”
“How do I do that? I feel as if my body is being haunted by lives that should have been but never were. I can’t help but to think of how my life would be if they were here with me…with us. I cringe at the thought of being touched and when I am, I crumble. I am stuck in an endless tunnel and though I want to believe the light is up ahead, I can’t. But I still do want to believe, and somehow today, I am willing to start trying. How do I start?”
“You start by opening up…a little a first and as frequently as you can. That is how you start.”
As Alicia arrives, I look through the window and I fight to breathe.
I hand her the chest that holds much more than it should. As she opens the chest and looks at me with nervous wonder, I know she already sees someone new before her, someone so torn it hurts to stare. She sees a dress, she sees the blood and she knows instantly, her best friend was now buried deep in the memories… Maybe she was never really there all this time.
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He enters slowly and looks around the restaurant he ponders should he just go to a table or the bar when he sees her, a smile that seemed to make his heart soar. He walked over to her and she looked at him and suddenly they knew, this will be forever. “Hello.” She says nervously as her friends sit puzzled because they never knew of her having a boyfriend. “Hi, I just came in and I saw you and I know it may sound corny but there was no way I could leave without at least hearing your voice.” She smiled and again he wasn’t able to feel his heart beat but he knew he didn’t need to, because she had it and it was safe.
“I have always searched for a reason to believe that there was hope for tomorrow, never did I expect I would find the answer in a woman’s smile. The way you seem to make me better by just being here is incredible. When I make mistakes they don’t seem fatalistic because you make me feel I can fix it. I touch your chest and I feel your heart beat and I know if that song ends, I will lose the ability to be. I stand here with you today promising with every fiber of my being that I will love you, care for you, cherish you and protect you. I pledge my heart to you my love and every day I have left.”
She runs into the bedroom and kisses him softly, he moves, she sighs with relief. “Wake up honey, its really important.” He opens his eyes and there she was radiating before him, he knows instantly it’s going to be a good day. He holds her, kisses her and listens to her give him the most exciting news. She waits for a response and she nervously bites her fingernails. He smiles and says, “This is the best day of my life! We’re gonna have a baby!!”. This would mark the beginning of the best and worst 2 years of their lives.
“Babe! I got Chinese so I hope you’re hungry.” He waits. He waits. As he races up the stairs he knows she has broken. He breaks down the door and pulls the shower curtain and sees her curled up on the stoned shower floor and he holds her, kisses her and her tears seem to sizzle when they touch his skin. He knows its happened again and feared that this time she won’t be coming back.
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“Babe! Hun, open your eyes!” But he knows, he feels it, she won’t open her eyes because she is losing, she is falling apart. “Honey please, fight this, don’t let the music end.” For a moment he is there, crying silently in dismay, in relief, in utter confusion. Then she opens her eyes, ‘I’m trying…’ As those words lift him through the clouds; he starts to believe that they are going to make it.

As I lay on the bed, I find myself spilling to him all that I have been hiding. I show him my chest filled with painful memories and forbidden dreams and he falls. I know what he is thinking, ‘how could I have been so blind? Is it that I saw and knew but felt it best to pretend not to? As I hold his head close to my heart, it’s not the same; it is distant, not comforting…we can’t fix this alone.

I open my mouth to speak and he lifts his head and stops me. With this look, he takes the burden of my shell and he decides to carry it…he sees the remnants of what use to be on my skin, but he knows we will get through this…for better, not worst.

@DaleyChronicles