Slowly…Figuring Things Out

I haven’t been keeping up with my blog lately simply because I haven’t been feeling very motivated. I thought it was distraction that fueled this nonchalant attitude towards writing but I slowly realized it may be more than that.

There are many things we can fix in a jiffy without any help…and others, we just can’t.

Over the last couple months, I’ve had my fair share of internal ups and downs. Sometimes it’s because of actual events but most times it’s just my mind and the thoughts it holds. Now there are people who will give you very generic advice that to them sounds simple enough, but it isn’t.

Figuring out what’s wrong without a clear start point is a process you go through rather slowly. And this makes perfect sense, if the issue is that serious or prominent then taking it slowly or at your pace of comfort is what you should do. Don’t feel rushed by time, people or your general environment. It’s not fair to you. You deserve to be allowed to slowly figure out your mess and then put it back together. You’ll know when you’re taking ‘Too long’ or moving through way too fast. You can feel the authenticity of the progress you’re making. You’ll know the difference between ‘handcrafted’ and ‘hurried’. Trust me, deep down, if you are honest with yourself you will know before anyone even alludes to it.

So what’s my message? That just like me, if you’re going through something and you don’t feel right in your skin; you are ALLOWED to take it slow. That is your right. So turn the volume on those that want to rush you through. The sun sets when it pleases and rises at its own pace too. It is not bothered by the humans sitting and wishing that it would hurry or slow down. You shouldn’t either.

@DaleyChronicles

Following Through…My Hard To Break Habit

Wow, it’s been a while since I sat down and decided to do a blog and just post it without all the frills. Life has me busy but I’m definitely working on carving out the time to do more of what makes me happy, like blogging.

Any who, I’m here to talk about this seriously hard to break habit I have; following through. For a person that knows the importance of closure and completion, I have a serious problem finishing things in my life. Even things as small as a meal, I always leave some back even if it’s a bite-size.

Most recently I finally followed through on my decision to buy myself a new phone, first time! With the phone came some great features to help with maintaining a good health, now this leads to one of my biggest difficulties to date…following through on my health and fitness plans. I always start to drink more water, exercise more then in about a week I totally forget and decide I’m tired of trying. There are times when I think to myself that this has to do with fear, I want to see the great outcome but I fear I may not be able to achieve it or it won’t help me. For example, I have a slight hydration problem and it’s obvious that drinking more water will help but for some reason I can’t follow through. Why you ask? Because I fear there may be more to this problem than water, and if I drink more water and nothing changes I will need to further explore the problem.

I started reading ‘The Road Less Travelled’ and Peck speaks quite frequently about the negative effects that come about when we ignore our problems hoping they will go away. I knew before but I really know now that this is my issue. Now I have to figure out what to do.

First I have committed to exercising at least 30 minutes per day, even if it’s just a jog or walk. I will try to drink at least 4 glasses of water each day and work my way up.

Sometimes we find it difficult to face our problems because we may not have the support we want, which is what’s happening to me. The truth is, we have all the strength, drive and support we need resting inside us! So if you’re like me, you have to first accept where you are, figure out where you want to be and how you’re going to get there. You have to push yourself to start and keep pushing yourself as you go along.

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We can do many great things, we have the strength and power to do it. We just have to believe it. I’m working on believing. Will you?
– Daley Chronicles

Stop Putting A Hold On Life

I remember at the beginning of this year, I made a list of things I wanted to accomplish and when I did. I did this because I know that putting your plans down on paper makes them real. Sad part is, I underestimated the power of ‘I’ll do it tomorrow/next week/next month’. I did not make a contingency plan for the little virus called procrastination that has the ability to eat through your plans and sabotage your progress.

A lot of the progress we make depends on the level of commitment and time we put into what we want to accomplish. It could be as small as a doctor’s visit; if we don’t make the time for it then we won’t ever be able to go. We start to then slowly put our lives on pause. We become incapable of completing the things we aspire to and we start to become stagnant, our growth stunted. 

A life with no growth or progress feels dead and can be considered dead too. It gives you no drive to handle tomorrow, it leaves you feeling miserable and uncomfortable with where you are. It may even push you to try to rip yourself out of your skin. You start to feel down and empty without being able to pinpoint a particular reason. So it’s safe to say it doesn’t do you any good.

I am not sure how I can get out of this slump where I just feel as if I am muddling through but I have a clue.
1. I will commit to my tasks on my to-do list, no matter how simple it is.
2. Try to establish a routine that keeps me on track and not just busy but productive.
3. Exercise and eat right: I think this is more than important, part of the drive to get up and do things has to do with your mind and body, keep those healthy and active, and you will be able to accomplish much more.
4. Don’t beat myself up: if I can’t get something done or I need to rest, I should put myself down and feel I am slipping back into the pattern. Mistakes happen.
5. Don’t put off for tomorrow, what can be done today.

Those are the five things I will be focusing on as I try to not put a hold on life. If you have any tips or pointers, please comment below.

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Until next time…DC

I’ve Been Doing Some Thinking…

I decided to write about my thoughts and feelings depending on how random or relevant they are.

Tonight I am laying in my bed wondering why is it so hard to feel connected to others? We have friends and our families but when we are alone, the loneliness feels much deeper and lasting than it should. Here are some of my thoughts…

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1. Many of us form superficial relationships. These relationships could be based on status, appearance or even just convenience, but no matter the reason they are formed the fact is they hold no true value in our lives. I can think of some relationships I have had that were just like this but I’m not going that deep.

2. Technology has tricked us into believing that Social Media brings us closer. Now I have nothing against social media, I just don’t think it should substitute real life interactions. I think social media helps us to be aware of others, events and things that people are talking about. But you tell me… Does social media really enhance our help us to build healthy and fulfilling relationships?

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3.  We don’t try hard enough in our relationships. Now a lot of us have a great deal going on in our lives. It could be work, school or just personal things; the fact is, we are constantly ‘busy’. So busy that we forget to keep in touch, to reconnect. Now this ‘we’ includes you at home wishing you could call someone up so that you can hit the town. You allowed your relationship to go without proper nourishment. It’s weak and no longer gives you the pull you need or desire. My main thought is;

You can’t expect something to work for you if you don’t work at it.

4. We secretly like the misery that comes with loneliness. Believe it or not, there are persons out there who do nothing about their disconnection with others simply because they need that reason to be sad and borderline depressed. They have found a comfort in the darkness that is slowly eating away at them. Seems weird? Yea, I know.

5. Our sense of meaning and purpose may be lost. This is a point I definitely need to speak about more and not just in a single paragraph, but here are my two cents. We were created with a purpose and for a reason. Many of us who are not connected to the Creator or who have no clue why they are on this Earth, find themselves in a place of sadness and cloudiness. There is a chilling darkness that seems to want to dim their inner light. It is up to us to get to a place of spiritual awareness and sense of meaning and purpose. How? Through the Creator.

So as I lay here feeling so bored and lonely, I know that I had a hand to play in this horrible feeling I have.
Do I need to try to change this feeling? Damn straight. Will I? That’s the important question.

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Good night! Follow me on Twitter @DaleyChronicles for more inspiration, insight and random thoughts.

My Thoughts on Lent

“Jesus was led out into the wilderness by the Holy Spirit to be tempted there by the Devil. For forty days and forty nights he ate nothing and became very hungry…” – Matthew 4: 1-2

“The traditional purpose of Lent is the preparation of the believer through prayer, penance, repentance of sins, almsgiving, atonement and self-denial.”

Many persons try to achieve a goal for the 40 days and 40 nights of Lent, but what meaning does this season really hold?

I believe it is a season of preparation and testing; Jesus was taken into the wilderness to be tempted. It is also a season of faith, because though his body was weak, his faith did not falter and he did not fall into temptation. He refused the Devil and was then taken care of by angels.

During Lent, many of the faithful commit to fasting or giving up certain types of luxuries as a form of penitence.”

For as long as I have been able to comprehend what happens around me, people have been ‘giving up’ things for this season; things like Twitter, Facebook, Soda, Sex, Lying, Cursing and so many other things that we may deem ‘spiritual poisons’. Whether it be bad habits or things they feel dependent on; we have been making the sacrifice to not partake in these things for this season.

I think this is great,  because where it takes a few days to form a habit, it takes over a month to break it. It also helps us to move away from the silly things that hinder us from seeing truth and showing gratitude and praise. It helps us to strengthen our faith and beliefs.

“The three traditional practices to be taken up with renewed vigour during Lent are prayer (justice towards God), fasting (justice towards self), and almsgiving (justice towards neighbour).

However, in modern times, observers give up an action of theirs considered to be a vice, add something that is considered to be able to bring them closer to God, and often give the time or money spent doing that to charitable purposes or organizations.”

This cultural/religious practice is also good as it helps us to also form new habits, while trying to break the old ones. So though you have given up sex, you can also decide to pray more, do community service or go to church.  Do something that enables spiritual growth and enlightenment. We should be able to deny our earthly needs and connect to God and His people. Do something outside of ourselves.

“Give up the spiritual poisons and partake in the consumption of spiritual nutrients.” – Daniella Marie

Emotional health and physical health are great, but it is the spirit that counts the most. We have to use this season to tap into the source which is God. To do great things in His name and grow in His faith.  So yes, it is good to be able to give up something,  but what is that more than discipline. Lent requires more of us than that, it requires that we connect with God, have faith in His goodness and show this to others.

Don’t be discouraged and believe that if you slip it is over… Jesus was sent to forgive us of our sins and slip-ups, not to condemn us. Though we may be tested,  we can stand tall and draw on the eternal strength of God.

So reply and let me know your thoughts and what you have decided to give up for this Lent.

@DaleyChronicles

STEP OUT TODAY…IN FAITH

Things happen for a reason…How many of us believe this statement without doubts? Honestly, not a lot.

As expected, we find more understanding in the good things that happens to us, rather than the things that are not so good. This is natural because I mean if I get a promotion of course I’m going to say it is because of my hard work and dedication. On the other hand,  if I am demoted or let go, I will find it hard to figure out what the reason for this could possibly be.

Not all persons are like this; there are some persons who believe in God’s will and grace. They believe that He does not give us more than we can bear and that all the little things tie into a bigger picture.

Do you want to know the truth? It does! We won’t always understand why things happen but if you trust and believe in God’s will, you will be able to continue to have hope. Your faith won’t waver and crumble because things aren’t going the way you wish it would.

Things don’t just end, they give way for new beginnings and possibilities.

Your life isn’t over because you lost your job, you didn’t get promoted or you are low on cash. As long as you are breathing there is hope and a chance for things to turn around. But it’s not that easy, you have to take the first steps and keep moving in faith. Maybe it won’t come immediately…most times it doesn’t. We have to work hard and continue to work because we know God’s plans WILL be fulfilled. All that you need to make this work will come to you,  you just have to take those steps.

STEP OUT IN FAITH! LET IT BE YOUR FASHION.

Until next time…
@DaleyChronicles

Luke 17 : 11 – 19….Thankfulness

A Lesson of Gratitude

“As He entered the village, ten lepers stood at a distance crying out, ‘Jesus, Master, have mercy on us!’ He looked at them and said, ‘Go show yourselves to the priests.’ And as they went, their leprosy disappeared.
One of them, when he saw that he was healed, came back to Jesus shouting, ‘Praise God, I am healed!” He fell to his face down on the ground at Jesus’ feet, thanking him for what he had done.”

Luke 17 : 11 – 19

Gratitude is a wonderful and positive attitude. How can our lives have meaning if we do not count our blessings and give thanks to the one who blessed us?

When we wake up in the mornings, we have more than enough to be grateful for, because that in itself is a wonderful blessing. Yes, the day may not go the way you want, but something did go right. Jesus healed 10 lepers and only one came back to him to give thanks… ONE! There is so much He does for us and that others around us do, but do we take the time to say ‘Thank You’ and really mean it?

Let this be our lesson for today, gratitude. Say ‘Thank you’ when someone does something for you, helps you or is kind to you. Give God thanks for all your blessings and speak a positive attitude unto His people. You are blessed beyond measures…always remember that.

@DaleyChronicles