Slowly…Figuring Things Out

I haven’t been keeping up with my blog lately simply because I haven’t been feeling very motivated. I thought it was distraction that fueled this nonchalant attitude towards writing but I slowly realized it may be more than that.

There are many things we can fix in a jiffy without any help…and others, we just can’t.

Over the last couple months, I’ve had my fair share of internal ups and downs. Sometimes it’s because of actual events but most times it’s just my mind and the thoughts it holds. Now there are people who will give you very generic advice that to them sounds simple enough, but it isn’t.

Figuring out what’s wrong without a clear start point is a process you go through rather slowly. And this makes perfect sense, if the issue is that serious or prominent then taking it slowly or at your pace of comfort is what you should do. Don’t feel rushed by time, people or your general environment. It’s not fair to you. You deserve to be allowed to slowly figure out your mess and then put it back together. You’ll know when you’re taking ‘Too long’ or moving through way too fast. You can feel the authenticity of the progress you’re making. You’ll know the difference between ‘handcrafted’ and ‘hurried’. Trust me, deep down, if you are honest with yourself you will know before anyone even alludes to it.

So what’s my message? That just like me, if you’re going through something and you don’t feel right in your skin; you are ALLOWED to take it slow. That is your right. So turn the volume on those that want to rush you through. The sun sets when it pleases and rises at its own pace too. It is not bothered by the humans sitting and wishing that it would hurry or slow down. You shouldn’t either.

@DaleyChronicles

Journey into Passion and Purpose

“WHAT LIES BEHIND US AND WHAT LIES BEFORE US ARE TINY MATTERS COMPARED TO WHAT LIES WITHIN US. “
-RALPH WALDO EMERSON

January 11, 2016 will mark the start of my journey towards feeling more fulfilled. I found a great challenge when I did my research  and I fell in love with it. It’s called ‘This Cherished Life: Rediscover Your Passion & Purpose’. I have found myself in situations where I feel empty or simply like wasted blank paper without direction or purpose. I have always had a passion for Psychology and with each roadblock I have been falling deeper into this empty feeling. I have drowned out my free time with either work or mindlessly watching TV shows but I haven’t felt filled. So needless to say, this challenge is PERFECT!

This challenge pushes you to write freely or based on the prompts and the questions. What I love are the actual prompts, for example “What are you doing too much of, that you can let go of? What are you doing on a regular basis that isn’t serving you? What kinds of “shoulds” are you allowing in your life that, when you really think about them, are really “I would rather nots”?” These are the types of questions we should be asking ourselves, and with 30 minutes per day for 30 days, it is a slow way to form the habit of carving out time for yourself. I’ve always spoken of the con to having a ‘busy’ life, you start to lose track of what’s important. I’m hoping to maintain connections with my friends and family this year. To continue to focus on what makes me feel fulfilled, even if it’s for a small portion of my day.

So wish me luck because I am going to try my BEST to keep on track with this challenge.

Until next time beauties! Here’s the link to the challenge if you want to try it: http://bit.ly/1SbSqiv.

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An Important, but hard, New Year’s Resolution

First I really have to marvel at the changes that took place on WordPress since I last made a blog post. I know it’s disappointing and I totally fell off the wagon but hopefully I can dig down inside to find that inspiration and motivation again.

But let me get into why I came here. Today, I made a heavy realization and it is one that I have been seeing for quite some time now but always found it difficult to accept. That is: People won’t always care for you as much as you care for them. They won’t want to be in your company as much or feel the need to reach out as much. That is the simple truth. Sometimes, others are caught up in their own lives and those close to them that there are others (which may include you), that get forgotten.

So here’s where I am at with that sad truth and realization; I need to find a way to not care as much when people do this to me. Here’s why: A. Chances are, I may be doing this to someone else without even knowing. B. These experiences are coming at me so frequently it is hard to ignore that fact that there must be a lesson in there somewhere. C. What’s the point in getting sad and bothered over someone who doesn’t glance twice at you? There aren’t a lot of strong arguments now are there?

So for the year 2016, I will try to care less when I am cast aside and instead learn where to focus my efforts  and where it’s not worth it. Sometimes people are very seasonal or reach out only when they need something; I’m finding a lot of those people in my life right now. Does that mean I am not exciting? A good friend? A good sister? I don’t think so.  I am forced to conclude that the universe may be teaching me the great lesson of loving myself enough to be happy when alone, know my worth and surround myself with people who genuinely care for me and want to be around me. I am tired of failed plans, waiting on others just to have them bail. I am exhausted and quite displeased by the constant knot I have in my stomach when I am ‘left out’.

So that’s my first and I think one of the hardest resolutions I will make for this coming year. My decision may not be liked or understood, but I feel this is what’s best for me.

Do you have any hard decisions you need to make? Tell me about it and maybe I can give you some valuable advice.

Until next time…

Following Through…My Hard To Break Habit

Wow, it’s been a while since I sat down and decided to do a blog and just post it without all the frills. Life has me busy but I’m definitely working on carving out the time to do more of what makes me happy, like blogging.

Any who, I’m here to talk about this seriously hard to break habit I have; following through. For a person that knows the importance of closure and completion, I have a serious problem finishing things in my life. Even things as small as a meal, I always leave some back even if it’s a bite-size.

Most recently I finally followed through on my decision to buy myself a new phone, first time! With the phone came some great features to help with maintaining a good health, now this leads to one of my biggest difficulties to date…following through on my health and fitness plans. I always start to drink more water, exercise more then in about a week I totally forget and decide I’m tired of trying. There are times when I think to myself that this has to do with fear, I want to see the great outcome but I fear I may not be able to achieve it or it won’t help me. For example, I have a slight hydration problem and it’s obvious that drinking more water will help but for some reason I can’t follow through. Why you ask? Because I fear there may be more to this problem than water, and if I drink more water and nothing changes I will need to further explore the problem.

I started reading ‘The Road Less Travelled’ and Peck speaks quite frequently about the negative effects that come about when we ignore our problems hoping they will go away. I knew before but I really know now that this is my issue. Now I have to figure out what to do.

First I have committed to exercising at least 30 minutes per day, even if it’s just a jog or walk. I will try to drink at least 4 glasses of water each day and work my way up.

Sometimes we find it difficult to face our problems because we may not have the support we want, which is what’s happening to me. The truth is, we have all the strength, drive and support we need resting inside us! So if you’re like me, you have to first accept where you are, figure out where you want to be and how you’re going to get there. You have to push yourself to start and keep pushing yourself as you go along.

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We can do many great things, we have the strength and power to do it. We just have to believe it. I’m working on believing. Will you?
– Daley Chronicles

Stop Putting A Hold On Life

I remember at the beginning of this year, I made a list of things I wanted to accomplish and when I did. I did this because I know that putting your plans down on paper makes them real. Sad part is, I underestimated the power of ‘I’ll do it tomorrow/next week/next month’. I did not make a contingency plan for the little virus called procrastination that has the ability to eat through your plans and sabotage your progress.

A lot of the progress we make depends on the level of commitment and time we put into what we want to accomplish. It could be as small as a doctor’s visit; if we don’t make the time for it then we won’t ever be able to go. We start to then slowly put our lives on pause. We become incapable of completing the things we aspire to and we start to become stagnant, our growth stunted. 

A life with no growth or progress feels dead and can be considered dead too. It gives you no drive to handle tomorrow, it leaves you feeling miserable and uncomfortable with where you are. It may even push you to try to rip yourself out of your skin. You start to feel down and empty without being able to pinpoint a particular reason. So it’s safe to say it doesn’t do you any good.

I am not sure how I can get out of this slump where I just feel as if I am muddling through but I have a clue.
1. I will commit to my tasks on my to-do list, no matter how simple it is.
2. Try to establish a routine that keeps me on track and not just busy but productive.
3. Exercise and eat right: I think this is more than important, part of the drive to get up and do things has to do with your mind and body, keep those healthy and active, and you will be able to accomplish much more.
4. Don’t beat myself up: if I can’t get something done or I need to rest, I should put myself down and feel I am slipping back into the pattern. Mistakes happen.
5. Don’t put off for tomorrow, what can be done today.

Those are the five things I will be focusing on as I try to not put a hold on life. If you have any tips or pointers, please comment below.

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Until next time…DC

A Message For You

There may be persons in your life who feel they have been tasked with the job to constantly bring you down. They criticize and never have a good thing to say. They use you as a way to unload their burdens.

Let me be the one to tell you…You don’t  deserve it.

You may not be perfect but you are not a ball of wrong. You have great qualities that deserve to be recognized. You are worthy of love and were not made to be someone’s doormat, a place for them to leave the mess they have. No! You are a light of greatness and beauty.

You can listen to criticism but not when it’s  only meant to bring you down. People who love and care for you don’t  want to tear you down, they wish to build you up. So criticism from them comes in the form of advice, it comes with solution and reason. It comes from a place of care and concern.

So lift your head high and close your ears to those who wish to break you. We may not be perfect but we were wonderfully made. Our purpose is not to make others feel good by putting ourselves down…We have the right to feel good too.

Keep your head high. Until next time…
@DaleyChronicles
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My Thoughts on Lent

“Jesus was led out into the wilderness by the Holy Spirit to be tempted there by the Devil. For forty days and forty nights he ate nothing and became very hungry…” – Matthew 4: 1-2

“The traditional purpose of Lent is the preparation of the believer through prayer, penance, repentance of sins, almsgiving, atonement and self-denial.”

Many persons try to achieve a goal for the 40 days and 40 nights of Lent, but what meaning does this season really hold?

I believe it is a season of preparation and testing; Jesus was taken into the wilderness to be tempted. It is also a season of faith, because though his body was weak, his faith did not falter and he did not fall into temptation. He refused the Devil and was then taken care of by angels.

During Lent, many of the faithful commit to fasting or giving up certain types of luxuries as a form of penitence.”

For as long as I have been able to comprehend what happens around me, people have been ‘giving up’ things for this season; things like Twitter, Facebook, Soda, Sex, Lying, Cursing and so many other things that we may deem ‘spiritual poisons’. Whether it be bad habits or things they feel dependent on; we have been making the sacrifice to not partake in these things for this season.

I think this is great,  because where it takes a few days to form a habit, it takes over a month to break it. It also helps us to move away from the silly things that hinder us from seeing truth and showing gratitude and praise. It helps us to strengthen our faith and beliefs.

“The three traditional practices to be taken up with renewed vigour during Lent are prayer (justice towards God), fasting (justice towards self), and almsgiving (justice towards neighbour).

However, in modern times, observers give up an action of theirs considered to be a vice, add something that is considered to be able to bring them closer to God, and often give the time or money spent doing that to charitable purposes or organizations.”

This cultural/religious practice is also good as it helps us to also form new habits, while trying to break the old ones. So though you have given up sex, you can also decide to pray more, do community service or go to church.  Do something that enables spiritual growth and enlightenment. We should be able to deny our earthly needs and connect to God and His people. Do something outside of ourselves.

“Give up the spiritual poisons and partake in the consumption of spiritual nutrients.” – Daniella Marie

Emotional health and physical health are great, but it is the spirit that counts the most. We have to use this season to tap into the source which is God. To do great things in His name and grow in His faith.  So yes, it is good to be able to give up something,  but what is that more than discipline. Lent requires more of us than that, it requires that we connect with God, have faith in His goodness and show this to others.

Don’t be discouraged and believe that if you slip it is over… Jesus was sent to forgive us of our sins and slip-ups, not to condemn us. Though we may be tested,  we can stand tall and draw on the eternal strength of God.

So reply and let me know your thoughts and what you have decided to give up for this Lent.

@DaleyChronicles