Slowly…Figuring Things Out

I haven’t been keeping up with my blog lately simply because I haven’t been feeling very motivated. I thought it was distraction that fueled this nonchalant attitude towards writing but I slowly realized it may be more than that.

There are many things we can fix in a jiffy without any help…and others, we just can’t.

Over the last couple months, I’ve had my fair share of internal ups and downs. Sometimes it’s because of actual events but most times it’s just my mind and the thoughts it holds. Now there are people who will give you very generic advice that to them sounds simple enough, but it isn’t.

Figuring out what’s wrong without a clear start point is a process you go through rather slowly. And this makes perfect sense, if the issue is that serious or prominent then taking it slowly or at your pace of comfort is what you should do. Don’t feel rushed by time, people or your general environment. It’s not fair to you. You deserve to be allowed to slowly figure out your mess and then put it back together. You’ll know when you’re taking ‘Too long’ or moving through way too fast. You can feel the authenticity of the progress you’re making. You’ll know the difference between ‘handcrafted’ and ‘hurried’. Trust me, deep down, if you are honest with yourself you will know before anyone even alludes to it.

So what’s my message? That just like me, if you’re going through something and you don’t feel right in your skin; you are ALLOWED to take it slow. That is your right. So turn the volume on those that want to rush you through. The sun sets when it pleases and rises at its own pace too. It is not bothered by the humans sitting and wishing that it would hurry or slow down. You shouldn’t either.

@DaleyChronicles

An Important, but hard, New Year’s Resolution

First I really have to marvel at the changes that took place on WordPress since I last made a blog post. I know it’s disappointing and I totally fell off the wagon but hopefully I can dig down inside to find that inspiration and motivation again.

But let me get into why I came here. Today, I made a heavy realization and it is one that I have been seeing for quite some time now but always found it difficult to accept. That is: People won’t always care for you as much as you care for them. They won’t want to be in your company as much or feel the need to reach out as much. That is the simple truth. Sometimes, others are caught up in their own lives and those close to them that there are others (which may include you), that get forgotten.

So here’s where I am at with that sad truth and realization; I need to find a way to not care as much when people do this to me. Here’s why: A. Chances are, I may be doing this to someone else without even knowing. B. These experiences are coming at me so frequently it is hard to ignore that fact that there must be a lesson in there somewhere. C. What’s the point in getting sad and bothered over someone who doesn’t glance twice at you? There aren’t a lot of strong arguments now are there?

So for the year 2016, I will try to care less when I am cast aside and instead learn where to focus my efforts  and where it’s not worth it. Sometimes people are very seasonal or reach out only when they need something; I’m finding a lot of those people in my life right now. Does that mean I am not exciting? A good friend? A good sister? I don’t think so.  I am forced to conclude that the universe may be teaching me the great lesson of loving myself enough to be happy when alone, know my worth and surround myself with people who genuinely care for me and want to be around me. I am tired of failed plans, waiting on others just to have them bail. I am exhausted and quite displeased by the constant knot I have in my stomach when I am ‘left out’.

So that’s my first and I think one of the hardest resolutions I will make for this coming year. My decision may not be liked or understood, but I feel this is what’s best for me.

Do you have any hard decisions you need to make? Tell me about it and maybe I can give you some valuable advice.

Until next time…

Following Through…My Hard To Break Habit

Wow, it’s been a while since I sat down and decided to do a blog and just post it without all the frills. Life has me busy but I’m definitely working on carving out the time to do more of what makes me happy, like blogging.

Any who, I’m here to talk about this seriously hard to break habit I have; following through. For a person that knows the importance of closure and completion, I have a serious problem finishing things in my life. Even things as small as a meal, I always leave some back even if it’s a bite-size.

Most recently I finally followed through on my decision to buy myself a new phone, first time! With the phone came some great features to help with maintaining a good health, now this leads to one of my biggest difficulties to date…following through on my health and fitness plans. I always start to drink more water, exercise more then in about a week I totally forget and decide I’m tired of trying. There are times when I think to myself that this has to do with fear, I want to see the great outcome but I fear I may not be able to achieve it or it won’t help me. For example, I have a slight hydration problem and it’s obvious that drinking more water will help but for some reason I can’t follow through. Why you ask? Because I fear there may be more to this problem than water, and if I drink more water and nothing changes I will need to further explore the problem.

I started reading ‘The Road Less Travelled’ and Peck speaks quite frequently about the negative effects that come about when we ignore our problems hoping they will go away. I knew before but I really know now that this is my issue. Now I have to figure out what to do.

First I have committed to exercising at least 30 minutes per day, even if it’s just a jog or walk. I will try to drink at least 4 glasses of water each day and work my way up.

Sometimes we find it difficult to face our problems because we may not have the support we want, which is what’s happening to me. The truth is, we have all the strength, drive and support we need resting inside us! So if you’re like me, you have to first accept where you are, figure out where you want to be and how you’re going to get there. You have to push yourself to start and keep pushing yourself as you go along.

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We can do many great things, we have the strength and power to do it. We just have to believe it. I’m working on believing. Will you?
– Daley Chronicles

Stop Putting A Hold On Life

I remember at the beginning of this year, I made a list of things I wanted to accomplish and when I did. I did this because I know that putting your plans down on paper makes them real. Sad part is, I underestimated the power of ‘I’ll do it tomorrow/next week/next month’. I did not make a contingency plan for the little virus called procrastination that has the ability to eat through your plans and sabotage your progress.

A lot of the progress we make depends on the level of commitment and time we put into what we want to accomplish. It could be as small as a doctor’s visit; if we don’t make the time for it then we won’t ever be able to go. We start to then slowly put our lives on pause. We become incapable of completing the things we aspire to and we start to become stagnant, our growth stunted. 

A life with no growth or progress feels dead and can be considered dead too. It gives you no drive to handle tomorrow, it leaves you feeling miserable and uncomfortable with where you are. It may even push you to try to rip yourself out of your skin. You start to feel down and empty without being able to pinpoint a particular reason. So it’s safe to say it doesn’t do you any good.

I am not sure how I can get out of this slump where I just feel as if I am muddling through but I have a clue.
1. I will commit to my tasks on my to-do list, no matter how simple it is.
2. Try to establish a routine that keeps me on track and not just busy but productive.
3. Exercise and eat right: I think this is more than important, part of the drive to get up and do things has to do with your mind and body, keep those healthy and active, and you will be able to accomplish much more.
4. Don’t beat myself up: if I can’t get something done or I need to rest, I should put myself down and feel I am slipping back into the pattern. Mistakes happen.
5. Don’t put off for tomorrow, what can be done today.

Those are the five things I will be focusing on as I try to not put a hold on life. If you have any tips or pointers, please comment below.

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Until next time…DC

A Message For You

There may be persons in your life who feel they have been tasked with the job to constantly bring you down. They criticize and never have a good thing to say. They use you as a way to unload their burdens.

Let me be the one to tell you…You don’t  deserve it.

You may not be perfect but you are not a ball of wrong. You have great qualities that deserve to be recognized. You are worthy of love and were not made to be someone’s doormat, a place for them to leave the mess they have. No! You are a light of greatness and beauty.

You can listen to criticism but not when it’s  only meant to bring you down. People who love and care for you don’t  want to tear you down, they wish to build you up. So criticism from them comes in the form of advice, it comes with solution and reason. It comes from a place of care and concern.

So lift your head high and close your ears to those who wish to break you. We may not be perfect but we were wonderfully made. Our purpose is not to make others feel good by putting ourselves down…We have the right to feel good too.

Keep your head high. Until next time…
@DaleyChronicles
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I’ve Been Doing Some Thinking…

I decided to write about my thoughts and feelings depending on how random or relevant they are.

Tonight I am laying in my bed wondering why is it so hard to feel connected to others? We have friends and our families but when we are alone, the loneliness feels much deeper and lasting than it should. Here are some of my thoughts…

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1. Many of us form superficial relationships. These relationships could be based on status, appearance or even just convenience, but no matter the reason they are formed the fact is they hold no true value in our lives. I can think of some relationships I have had that were just like this but I’m not going that deep.

2. Technology has tricked us into believing that Social Media brings us closer. Now I have nothing against social media, I just don’t think it should substitute real life interactions. I think social media helps us to be aware of others, events and things that people are talking about. But you tell me… Does social media really enhance our help us to build healthy and fulfilling relationships?

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3.  We don’t try hard enough in our relationships. Now a lot of us have a great deal going on in our lives. It could be work, school or just personal things; the fact is, we are constantly ‘busy’. So busy that we forget to keep in touch, to reconnect. Now this ‘we’ includes you at home wishing you could call someone up so that you can hit the town. You allowed your relationship to go without proper nourishment. It’s weak and no longer gives you the pull you need or desire. My main thought is;

You can’t expect something to work for you if you don’t work at it.

4. We secretly like the misery that comes with loneliness. Believe it or not, there are persons out there who do nothing about their disconnection with others simply because they need that reason to be sad and borderline depressed. They have found a comfort in the darkness that is slowly eating away at them. Seems weird? Yea, I know.

5. Our sense of meaning and purpose may be lost. This is a point I definitely need to speak about more and not just in a single paragraph, but here are my two cents. We were created with a purpose and for a reason. Many of us who are not connected to the Creator or who have no clue why they are on this Earth, find themselves in a place of sadness and cloudiness. There is a chilling darkness that seems to want to dim their inner light. It is up to us to get to a place of spiritual awareness and sense of meaning and purpose. How? Through the Creator.

So as I lay here feeling so bored and lonely, I know that I had a hand to play in this horrible feeling I have.
Do I need to try to change this feeling? Damn straight. Will I? That’s the important question.

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Good night! Follow me on Twitter @DaleyChronicles for more inspiration, insight and random thoughts.

Late Night Thoughts…It’s not what you think

It’s been a while since I have posted because I have been too ‘busy’ for a lot of things these days. I put my quotations there because I truly believe that we make time for the things that really matter to us. Even if it’s just a few minutes or an hour out of the precious time we have been blessed with.

But on to why I’m here…

I have been working on a blog that I hoped to have published in less than a week but that may not happen. It’s requiring a lot more research than anticipated as well as I have to figure out a way to disclose without offending anyone mentioned. That’s always a hard task!

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So I took to reading Allegiant by Veronica Roth again because I got too ‘busy’ and sort of forgot about my book reading goal. Now let me tell you, I loved Divergent and Insurgent! They were absolutely well written and had me on an emotional roller coaster that didn’t leave me damaged, just wanting more. I have been getting a similar feeling from Allegiant, though I’m more concerned about where it’s going since it’s the last book. I’m going to avoid any spoilers just in case someone who reads this haven’t read it as yet. I am going to discuss though the sentiments I have been getting so far.

First let me tell you, my sister introduced me to this series. She sent me the PDF version for Divergent and Insurgent and though I am not a lover of e-books I read it and really enjoyed it. When she sent me Allegiant she gave a pretty clear disclaimer.  She said, and I quote, ‘I am upset! I don’t like the ending.’ That put me off for a while and I even lost the PDF version she sent me. After watching Insurgent, I decided to buy the hard copy and enhance my reading experience.  This way if I don’t necessarily enjoy it, I won’t have the added frustration of my eyes and head hurting because of the light from my tablet or computer. It’s been working out great so far but I am telling you, I am seriously concerned about where this is going and what this means for Tris, Four and all the other characters.

I love the fact that more has been revealed about her mother and other characters such as her father, but there are some things I don’t really understand. I won’t get to antsy because I am only at page 262 *covers face*.  I really think I did the right thing when I decided to read tonight, because my head space has been so clouded and it is great to be able to step out of it for a while. Though the life and stories in the book are complicated, I welcome the drama and complication it gives me rather than the ones I am dealing with in reality.

So really, this post was not a lot of anything but I feel safe sharing in this space. I’m going to publish this and go back to reading more of Allegiant before I go to bed.

P.S. Someone on Twitter also told me the book and Tris would annoy me, but I am trying not to let that alter my feelings towards the content of this book. I will read it to the end and form my own opinion, even if this is similar to the opinions of others. 

Good Night!! You’ll be hearing from me soon.

@DaleyChronicles