Slowly…Figuring Things Out

I haven’t been keeping up with my blog lately simply because I haven’t been feeling very motivated. I thought it was distraction that fueled this nonchalant attitude towards writing but I slowly realized it may be more than that.

There are many things we can fix in a jiffy without any help…and others, we just can’t.

Over the last couple months, I’ve had my fair share of internal ups and downs. Sometimes it’s because of actual events but most times it’s just my mind and the thoughts it holds. Now there are people who will give you very generic advice that to them sounds simple enough, but it isn’t.

Figuring out what’s wrong without a clear start point is a process you go through rather slowly. And this makes perfect sense, if the issue is that serious or prominent then taking it slowly or at your pace of comfort is what you should do. Don’t feel rushed by time, people or your general environment. It’s not fair to you. You deserve to be allowed to slowly figure out your mess and then put it back together. You’ll know when you’re taking ‘Too long’ or moving through way too fast. You can feel the authenticity of the progress you’re making. You’ll know the difference between ‘handcrafted’ and ‘hurried’. Trust me, deep down, if you are honest with yourself you will know before anyone even alludes to it.

So what’s my message? That just like me, if you’re going through something and you don’t feel right in your skin; you are ALLOWED to take it slow. That is your right. So turn the volume on those that want to rush you through. The sun sets when it pleases and rises at its own pace too. It is not bothered by the humans sitting and wishing that it would hurry or slow down. You shouldn’t either.

@DaleyChronicles

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I’ve Been Doing Some Thinking…

I decided to write about my thoughts and feelings depending on how random or relevant they are.

Tonight I am laying in my bed wondering why is it so hard to feel connected to others? We have friends and our families but when we are alone, the loneliness feels much deeper and lasting than it should. Here are some of my thoughts…

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1. Many of us form superficial relationships. These relationships could be based on status, appearance or even just convenience, but no matter the reason they are formed the fact is they hold no true value in our lives. I can think of some relationships I have had that were just like this but I’m not going that deep.

2. Technology has tricked us into believing that Social Media brings us closer. Now I have nothing against social media, I just don’t think it should substitute real life interactions. I think social media helps us to be aware of others, events and things that people are talking about. But you tell me… Does social media really enhance our help us to build healthy and fulfilling relationships?

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3.  We don’t try hard enough in our relationships. Now a lot of us have a great deal going on in our lives. It could be work, school or just personal things; the fact is, we are constantly ‘busy’. So busy that we forget to keep in touch, to reconnect. Now this ‘we’ includes you at home wishing you could call someone up so that you can hit the town. You allowed your relationship to go without proper nourishment. It’s weak and no longer gives you the pull you need or desire. My main thought is;

You can’t expect something to work for you if you don’t work at it.

4. We secretly like the misery that comes with loneliness. Believe it or not, there are persons out there who do nothing about their disconnection with others simply because they need that reason to be sad and borderline depressed. They have found a comfort in the darkness that is slowly eating away at them. Seems weird? Yea, I know.

5. Our sense of meaning and purpose may be lost. This is a point I definitely need to speak about more and not just in a single paragraph, but here are my two cents. We were created with a purpose and for a reason. Many of us who are not connected to the Creator or who have no clue why they are on this Earth, find themselves in a place of sadness and cloudiness. There is a chilling darkness that seems to want to dim their inner light. It is up to us to get to a place of spiritual awareness and sense of meaning and purpose. How? Through the Creator.

So as I lay here feeling so bored and lonely, I know that I had a hand to play in this horrible feeling I have.
Do I need to try to change this feeling? Damn straight. Will I? That’s the important question.

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Good night! Follow me on Twitter @DaleyChronicles for more inspiration, insight and random thoughts.

Late Night Thoughts…It’s not what you think

It’s been a while since I have posted because I have been too ‘busy’ for a lot of things these days. I put my quotations there because I truly believe that we make time for the things that really matter to us. Even if it’s just a few minutes or an hour out of the precious time we have been blessed with.

But on to why I’m here…

I have been working on a blog that I hoped to have published in less than a week but that may not happen. It’s requiring a lot more research than anticipated as well as I have to figure out a way to disclose without offending anyone mentioned. That’s always a hard task!

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So I took to reading Allegiant by Veronica Roth again because I got too ‘busy’ and sort of forgot about my book reading goal. Now let me tell you, I loved Divergent and Insurgent! They were absolutely well written and had me on an emotional roller coaster that didn’t leave me damaged, just wanting more. I have been getting a similar feeling from Allegiant, though I’m more concerned about where it’s going since it’s the last book. I’m going to avoid any spoilers just in case someone who reads this haven’t read it as yet. I am going to discuss though the sentiments I have been getting so far.

First let me tell you, my sister introduced me to this series. She sent me the PDF version for Divergent and Insurgent and though I am not a lover of e-books I read it and really enjoyed it. When she sent me Allegiant she gave a pretty clear disclaimer.  She said, and I quote, ‘I am upset! I don’t like the ending.’ That put me off for a while and I even lost the PDF version she sent me. After watching Insurgent, I decided to buy the hard copy and enhance my reading experience.  This way if I don’t necessarily enjoy it, I won’t have the added frustration of my eyes and head hurting because of the light from my tablet or computer. It’s been working out great so far but I am telling you, I am seriously concerned about where this is going and what this means for Tris, Four and all the other characters.

I love the fact that more has been revealed about her mother and other characters such as her father, but there are some things I don’t really understand. I won’t get to antsy because I am only at page 262 *covers face*.  I really think I did the right thing when I decided to read tonight, because my head space has been so clouded and it is great to be able to step out of it for a while. Though the life and stories in the book are complicated, I welcome the drama and complication it gives me rather than the ones I am dealing with in reality.

So really, this post was not a lot of anything but I feel safe sharing in this space. I’m going to publish this and go back to reading more of Allegiant before I go to bed.

P.S. Someone on Twitter also told me the book and Tris would annoy me, but I am trying not to let that alter my feelings towards the content of this book. I will read it to the end and form my own opinion, even if this is similar to the opinions of others. 

Good Night!! You’ll be hearing from me soon.

@DaleyChronicles

My Thoughts on Lent

“Jesus was led out into the wilderness by the Holy Spirit to be tempted there by the Devil. For forty days and forty nights he ate nothing and became very hungry…” – Matthew 4: 1-2

“The traditional purpose of Lent is the preparation of the believer through prayer, penance, repentance of sins, almsgiving, atonement and self-denial.”

Many persons try to achieve a goal for the 40 days and 40 nights of Lent, but what meaning does this season really hold?

I believe it is a season of preparation and testing; Jesus was taken into the wilderness to be tempted. It is also a season of faith, because though his body was weak, his faith did not falter and he did not fall into temptation. He refused the Devil and was then taken care of by angels.

During Lent, many of the faithful commit to fasting or giving up certain types of luxuries as a form of penitence.”

For as long as I have been able to comprehend what happens around me, people have been ‘giving up’ things for this season; things like Twitter, Facebook, Soda, Sex, Lying, Cursing and so many other things that we may deem ‘spiritual poisons’. Whether it be bad habits or things they feel dependent on; we have been making the sacrifice to not partake in these things for this season.

I think this is great,  because where it takes a few days to form a habit, it takes over a month to break it. It also helps us to move away from the silly things that hinder us from seeing truth and showing gratitude and praise. It helps us to strengthen our faith and beliefs.

“The three traditional practices to be taken up with renewed vigour during Lent are prayer (justice towards God), fasting (justice towards self), and almsgiving (justice towards neighbour).

However, in modern times, observers give up an action of theirs considered to be a vice, add something that is considered to be able to bring them closer to God, and often give the time or money spent doing that to charitable purposes or organizations.”

This cultural/religious practice is also good as it helps us to also form new habits, while trying to break the old ones. So though you have given up sex, you can also decide to pray more, do community service or go to church.  Do something that enables spiritual growth and enlightenment. We should be able to deny our earthly needs and connect to God and His people. Do something outside of ourselves.

“Give up the spiritual poisons and partake in the consumption of spiritual nutrients.” – Daniella Marie

Emotional health and physical health are great, but it is the spirit that counts the most. We have to use this season to tap into the source which is God. To do great things in His name and grow in His faith.  So yes, it is good to be able to give up something,  but what is that more than discipline. Lent requires more of us than that, it requires that we connect with God, have faith in His goodness and show this to others.

Don’t be discouraged and believe that if you slip it is over… Jesus was sent to forgive us of our sins and slip-ups, not to condemn us. Though we may be tested,  we can stand tall and draw on the eternal strength of God.

So reply and let me know your thoughts and what you have decided to give up for this Lent.

@DaleyChronicles

The Gifts of Imperfection: Your Guide to a Wholehearted Life – Brene Brown (Part 1)

“The universe isn’t short on wake up calls. We’re just too quick to hit the snooze button.” – Brene Brown

I am a GoodReads girl, I go there to find quotes that speak to me and ultimately books I can read to help with making my life feel more fulfilling. So when I came across Brene Brown’s quote I made a promise to get her book. I totally forgot the promise I made to myself, until a friend of mine Perrisha, sent me a link to her (Brene) TedTalk: Listening To Shame. I listened and I couldn’t help but to think “You have to get her book.” but again, that though got lost in all the madness.

It got lost until I was on Amazon looking for The Four Agreements and like a light bulb, her name appeared in my head so I ordered her book. I got it on Wednesday and I started to read this morning. After the preface, I am sure I will be enjoying this book. She writes with honesty and that is something I adore in a writer.

It is safe to say that I will be diving heart first into this book, and I will be sharing bits of it with you. I don’t usually do this, but I really believe this book will be worth sharing.I also believe that it will help me to put to paper my thoughts on it and how it makes me feel.

So let’s get ready for a great literary journey!

@DaleyChronicles 

STEP OUT TODAY…IN FAITH

Things happen for a reason…How many of us believe this statement without doubts? Honestly, not a lot.

As expected, we find more understanding in the good things that happens to us, rather than the things that are not so good. This is natural because I mean if I get a promotion of course I’m going to say it is because of my hard work and dedication. On the other hand,  if I am demoted or let go, I will find it hard to figure out what the reason for this could possibly be.

Not all persons are like this; there are some persons who believe in God’s will and grace. They believe that He does not give us more than we can bear and that all the little things tie into a bigger picture.

Do you want to know the truth? It does! We won’t always understand why things happen but if you trust and believe in God’s will, you will be able to continue to have hope. Your faith won’t waver and crumble because things aren’t going the way you wish it would.

Things don’t just end, they give way for new beginnings and possibilities.

Your life isn’t over because you lost your job, you didn’t get promoted or you are low on cash. As long as you are breathing there is hope and a chance for things to turn around. But it’s not that easy, you have to take the first steps and keep moving in faith. Maybe it won’t come immediately…most times it doesn’t. We have to work hard and continue to work because we know God’s plans WILL be fulfilled. All that you need to make this work will come to you,  you just have to take those steps.

STEP OUT IN FAITH! LET IT BE YOUR FASHION.

Until next time…
@DaleyChronicles

Luke 17 : 11 – 19….Thankfulness

A Lesson of Gratitude

“As He entered the village, ten lepers stood at a distance crying out, ‘Jesus, Master, have mercy on us!’ He looked at them and said, ‘Go show yourselves to the priests.’ And as they went, their leprosy disappeared.
One of them, when he saw that he was healed, came back to Jesus shouting, ‘Praise God, I am healed!” He fell to his face down on the ground at Jesus’ feet, thanking him for what he had done.”

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Gratitude is a wonderful and positive attitude. How can our lives have meaning if we do not count our blessings and give thanks to the one who blessed us?

When we wake up in the mornings, we have more than enough to be grateful for, because that in itself is a wonderful blessing. Yes, the day may not go the way you want, but something did go right. Jesus healed 10 lepers and only one came back to him to give thanks… ONE! There is so much He does for us and that others around us do, but do we take the time to say ‘Thank You’ and really mean it?

Let this be our lesson for today, gratitude. Say ‘Thank you’ when someone does something for you, helps you or is kind to you. Give God thanks for all your blessings and speak a positive attitude unto His people. You are blessed beyond measures…always remember that.

@DaleyChronicles